Christmas musings, which sounds dull, but not what you're thinking.

Today is Christmas. It's been a good one. I'm satisfied with how it has turned out. Since the day isn't over yet, I suppose I am referring to the breakfast/opening presents ritual that we observe every December 25th. There were piles and piles of gifts; so many, I thought maybe we had done too much. But, there were also ten people this year, too. Me, Tony, my mom, my aunt, my kids (3), my brother and my sister-in-law. I almost wrote "and his wife" there, when referring to Lindsey, but she is really much closer to me than that. I love Lindsey. I'm glad she's in our family now.

(yes, I'm jumping around conversationally, but my brain is thinking that way, too. It's tiring, but I'm really really thankful that Starbucks was open this afternoon. I'm so off schedule with the daily application of espresso, it's hard to concentrate.)

The doctor says this may be my mother's last Christmas. Not so sure. If it's anyone's last, I think it might be my grandmother's last Christmas. She was so sick, she didn't open presents with us. That's pretty sick. When my father was dying, he still used the small allotment of energy to come downstairs and watch the kids open presents for ten minutes.

It's been a hard time for my grandmother. She's 81 years old, turning 82 in February. This past Friday night, she was diagnosed with a touch of pneumonia. Saturday midday, Kyle, my fourteen-year-old, and I had to practically carry her out to the truck for he and my mother to take her to the emergency room. The doctor there termed it "angina and congestive heart failure," but we don't know that that is entirely accurate. It also might be side effects from the powerful medicines she was given for the pneumonia. Or a gastrointestinal thing. We just don't know. She spent the night in the hospital and was much better the next morning. Now, sick again. My aunt is going to give her a different cough syrup instead of the codeine-laced one the doctor prescribed. If that doesn't help, I imagine they'll take her back to the acute care place tomorrow.

I can't imagine Christmas without my mother steering the ship. But, I've been paying attention this year - to what I love and don't love, what has merit, what doesn't. I like going to church. This is a big one for me to admit. But I love going to the Christmas concert at our church, St. Luke United Methodist. Jamie is in the children's choir and was a shepherd in the Christmas play this year. I love the music, the singing, the resonance of it all.

I love going to the Family Christmas Eve service as a family. I don't take Communion, but everyone else can if they want to. I usually get trouble every year, because I don't take Communion. But, see, here's the thing. It's a sacrament. It's a holy act. If one is going to commit to that, one should do it with a whole heart. My heart has not been fully committed to Jesus being my Lord and Savior, so it's dishonest to state that with that action. I'll keep my integrity, thank you. Typing that out now, I realize, I've been waiting to give someone that reasoning. So here you go.

My mother decorates the house for Christmas. I . . . I didn't decorate anything this year. I think it's because of this nasty streak of perfectionism I have. I know that I probably won't be able to do it "perfectly" so I don't do it at all. That's going to have to stop. I need to be able to make a home for my family, even before my mom passes. Maybe I should practice doing it every month or so, decorating for the seasons, so when Christmas rolls around again, I'll be ready and more comfortable doing it.

I like buying presents. I'll need a budget next year, though. I didn't pay any attention to what I spent this year. I don't like wrapping presents. Next year, I think I will take all the presents to the House of Heroes gift wrapping service at the mall and pay them to wrap them. It would be easier on me and the money would go for a good cause.

I loved going to see "Annie" with Sam, age 13, and Jamie, age 9, at the Springer. We have stopped buying things from "Santa" for the most part. Instead, we splurge on experiences. This year, we also went to Fantasy in Lights at Callaway Gardens. We're going to go to the Georgia Aquarium and Ocmulgee Mounds in January, after my car gets fixed. I was worried that the kids would be disappointed in small trips this year. Last year, Mama took us to The Wizarding World of Harry Potter at Universal Studios and Disney World. What trip doesn't look small next to that? But they seem to be okay with what we've planned. Bless them, they're very forgiving and flexible.

I liked spending a few lengths of time with my brother, Will, and Lindsey. I finally feel like I can be myself around them. Will has a hard time with the kids. He doesn't have any of his own and it's going to be a hard transition for him. Kids can be chaotic. He doesn't deal with chaos well. There's other issues there, I think, but I choose to let those be his issues and not attempt to solve them for him.

As for me, I have been readmitted to Columbus Technical College. I am in the esthetician program and I have no problem admitting that I'm really excited about it.

That's new for me, too, to not be shy about admitting that I'm interested in far less academic things than my father would allow. He would consider me frivolous and I'm fairly certain he was disappointed in me for being an intellectual lightweight. Or maybe I'm not giving either of us enough credit. Maybe I put all this pressure on myself to live up to what I thought were his ideals. Maybe he was ok with me. Maybe he . . . I don't know. I don't know that I can complete that sentence with something he truthfully might have thought. But, he's moved on already, in every sense of that word, and there's no asking him and no pressure to be or do anything specific anymore. That right there is wonderful freedom.

Anyway, I'm really excited about it.

"I can't believe it, I'm a beautician!"
"Uh-uh-uh! Glamour technician!"
"Glamour technician!"
"Well, look at me, Annelle. It takes some effort to look like this."
"Oh, I can see that."  - Steel Magnolias

In fact, I have secret dreams of creating my own line of beauty products. I've been scouring Allure and Natural Health and the internet. We'll see. For now, it's incredible to be able to have dreams of my own - not influenced by anyone but me.